Advise to you #2

Courage or comfort
Accountability AND autonomy

If you drive nails with a saw
you end up with cut fingers

To bore a hole and shine a light to the seat of your emotions requires discipline and persistence. You are full of the latter and need more practice on the first. If you do, it will be facing down the pain that is driving your virulence and disarm its potency.

Limitations and corrections are the yang of creativity and growth: to force and forge change takes adaptability, which I believe is the pinnacle of the blessings you came to this world with. The restriction of painful failure and rejection will be the fuel for discovering transformation. Controlling others is futile and it becomes apparent once you realize they were not your "prize", or means by which you heal and grow, after all.

If you don't adapt, you perish.

My dear girl, my prayers are useless in the altar of your free will.